You can take the man out of corporate, not the corporate out of the man

Work-life balance isnโ€™t a myth or something you โ€˜might achieveโ€™ sometime in the future. Itโ€™s achievable right now, but that achievement can come with its own set of struggles.

When I left the corporate world it was because I wanted to be my own boss. The main reason for that? Like many of you reading this, it was for work-life balance – so I could spend more time with my wife and children. I didnโ€™t want to miss out on their important life events.

The fatherly work-life balance thing came together quickly โ€ฆ and brought with it an incredible set of advantages. But I still found a few things really hard to shake: deeply ingrained habits from my past career.

Like these three:

The lack of corporateness

Oddly enough I struggle with not wearing a suit. It feels strange to be in casual clothes each day and I actually find myself really enjoying meetings in Sydney when I can wear a shirt and tie!

The working hours

Yes I love the flexibility that flying solo gives but I still find myself feeling guilty whenever I stop work at 4pm (even though I may have started that day at 7am!).

Sometimes itโ€™s also lonely.

Working on public holidays when it seems everyone else is having a โ€˜day offโ€™ tends to bring this feeling on. There are no after work drinks anymore either!

How do I get over the above?

Rationally I am very aware that the benefits of running your own business completely outweigh the bad. I do, however, find that weaknesses and covetous thoughts need to be owned and worked through. Hereโ€™s how I process the above:

  • Drop the guilt

    If you started work at 5am and itโ€™s now 3pm, it should be pretty obvious that itโ€™s ok to go and pick your children up from school.

  • Have a day in the city

    : Put a suit on, venture into the city, have a meeting, spend a fortune on lunch, get stuck in traffic. Thatโ€™ll instantly cure you of that particular hang-up!

  • Remember why

    At the end of the day, Iโ€™m in business to be a family man. Itโ€™s easy for that to get lost in the noise.

Do you miss anything about your old corporate job? Has your work-life balance improved?