My worst week at work

This month, I experienced the toughest week Iโ€™ve had in seven years at Flying Solo. Hereโ€™s why.

Hiring a new Editor was always going to call for tough decisions and telling over fifty (largely very talented) individuals to sling their hook was agonising, but I learnt heaps in the process that Iโ€™d like to share with you.

Whether hiring is, or will ever be on your radar, there is doubtless a time when youโ€™ll need to say โ€˜noโ€™ โ€“ to unsuitable suppliers, dodgy partner approaches and poor paying clients. So being able to reject meaningfully can help us all.

Each individual who applied for our role received a message, within 24 hours, which stated when they could expect feedback. This prevented the โ€˜did you get my application?โ€™ messages. Also, people were not left wondering when theyโ€™d hear from me nor, importantly, could they bug me in the meantime.

Once the three of us had chosen who to interview, I sorted out my in-tray, tidied my business bookshelves, made a cup of tea and several other delaying tactics before eating the frog of rejection. Hereโ€™s how I let down the unsuccessful applicants:

  • I gave tailored responses to all the unsuccessful individuals. I was briefly tempted to write a blanket โ€˜dear Johnโ€™ letter but got over myself and spent time on the process, just like the applicants had done.

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  • I acknowledged their individual effort. A long cover letter, a sample article and a tailored resume โ€“ we asked a lot from candidates and I genuinely appreciated the time they had invested.
  • I gave honest feedback. Most of the applications had been put together properly but if they werenโ€™t I said so, on the basis Iโ€™d want to know. For instance, some failed to provide a sample article. Another poor person left on track changes (she tells me sheโ€™s still banging her head on a wall as a result) and anotherโ€™s resumรฉs mission statement clearly said she was seeking work as a TV producer.
  • Be positive.ย Examples included โ€œI loved your sparkinessโ€ or โ€œI admired your ambitious targetsโ€. It wasnโ€™t hard feeding back on such talented individuals, and stating what was strong a) helped soften the โ€˜butโ€™ blow and b) showed people weโ€™d listened to them.

It took two solid days of work and it was worth it. Blessedly, every person took their rejection on the chin. I even had some heart warming responses, summed up by one person who said โ€œThe job searching process is hard and demoralising, so taking the time to respond as you have is appreciated.โ€

As you read this weโ€™ll have concluded the interviews and will be edging nearer to making an announcement.

Do you have any tips for handling rejection and letting people down gently? Share them below.