Beware tired and emotional typing

Weโ€™ve all said things we regret. In the real world, a sincere face-to-face apology and explanation can usually put things right, but in the virtual world of online communication our words can take on a life of their own.

You may have heard of the dangers of text messaging under the influence (TUI). Also known as โ€˜intexicationโ€™, TUI can result in mistaken messages being sent and things said that are deeply regretted in the cold light of day. One example I read about was an amorous text message meant for boyfriend โ€˜Danโ€™ accidentally going to โ€˜Dadโ€™ with the press of a wrong button. Not great!

But in a business context Iโ€™d expand TUI to be โ€˜tired and emotional typingโ€™ (TET). By that I mean pounding the keyboard when youโ€™re angry, frustrated, irrational, have had a few drinks or otherwise not quite yourself.

In the real-time world of Twitter, Facebook, blogs, forums, online reviews, iPhones, email and the ever-dangerous REPLY ALL button, it has never been easier to say more stuff, more quickly to more people.

Online communication can be a great opportunity to build a good reputation, but if you have a tendency to fly off the handle, thereโ€™s never been a bigger mouth to shove your foot into. Compounding the problem is the fact Google has a memory like an elephant.

Very occasionally on our forums, articles or newsletters (often late at night!), someone fires off a heated response that more often than not they would like to retract quickly afterwards.

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Here are a few reasons why itโ€™s easy to get in trouble using online communication: 

Anonymity โ€“ the sense that no-one knows you makes you bolder than you would be face to face. 

Ease โ€“ you can fire off a response in seconds before stopping to think.

Temporary โ€“ there is a false sense that digital communication is not permanent. 

Context and tone โ€“ jokes or harmless comments can backfire when taken out of context.

One rule I try to follow in business is to never write something that Iโ€™d be ashamed for a wider audience to see. You never know when an email might be forwarded on with a long trail of comments never meant for more public consumption. If in doubt, Iโ€™ll save a draft and review it in the morning.

Have you had any email or online communication disasters in your business? How do you avoid the pitfalls of real-time communication? Go on, have a rant, itโ€™s just between us.